Disabled woman conned out of £45k

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Monday, November 02, 2009
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A housebound widow has been left penniless after she was swindled out of her lifesavings by a con man she fell in love with over the Internet.

The 52-year-old, from the East Riding, who was too ashamed to be identified, sent £45,000 to a man she thought was her new partner, to help him move from America so he could come and live with her and her two children.

He had spent months chatting to the woman, who is registered disabled, over e-mail, after they met on legitimate website Dating Direct.

He told her he was in the US Army and even requested her 10-year-old daughter call him dad.

But days after the woman sent the money, she was visited by Humberside Police officers, who broke the devastating news to her that she had been robbed.

The pictures the conman had sent her, claiming to be of himself, were in fact of a retired Major General of the US Army, who had been the second-highest-ranking military officer in Iraq.

Her money had in fact ended up in Africa and, according to police, is likely never to be seen again.

The victim, who suffers with chronic bronchitis and emphysema, two diseases of the lungs in which the airways become narrowed, said she now feels stupid and alone.

She said: "I feel sick, annoyed, but most of all stupid.

"I know people won't understand why I sent the money, but I had no reason to doubt he was moving to the UK to be with me.

"I'd fallen in love with him, he used to send me poetry.

"I would have a message when I woke up and throughout the day and last thing at night, he made me feel special.

"We would speak two or three times a day, we seemed to have so much in common."

Looking back now, the woman says she still struggles to believe what has happened to her.

She added: "He was just that good though, I can't explain how I got sucked in, he was a professional con man.

"Now not only have I got to deal with the loss of the money, it's almost like someone has died because I had this relationship with someone who turned out not to exist.

"I can get over what he did to me, but not what he did to my daughter.

"She believed he would be her dad."

Humberside Police are now warning women to be extra careful with men they meet on Internet dating sites.

There have been several similar incidents reported to officers in recent months.

Inspector Paul Welton, from the Economic Crime Development Unit, said: "We know that this particular scam was invented in Africa and we are working with the authorities in Ghana, however the chances of seeing this money again are slim.

"For many people, their immediate reaction is 'how could this person be so stupid', but what they don't realise is that these conmen are good at what they do and are able to exploit peoples weak points.

"Often people who fall victim to these scams are well educated, they have good jobs. Generally, they are intelligent people.

"We need people to be aware of these scams and to make sure they do not send money to people they do not know.

"We would also urge anyone who has been a victim to come forward."

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    by Tekkin' a lag @, Queen Vicky Bogs

    Tuesday, November 03 2009, 3:27AM

    “45 grand????? She could have sussed that out real easy - check the airlines, you can get a one way ticket (First Class), for a bloodly lot less than that.

    It's tough to have sympathy for someone who does something so stupid. The sad part about this is she has reproduced and that poor kid has her as a role model!”

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    by Alfa, Hull

    Monday, November 02 2009, 10:52PM

    “Brenda, if you were paying attention to this story from the onset, you would have discovered who started playing the race card and it was definitely not me.

    Mick and a couple of others were having a go at Africans for something a conman from some African country did to an innocent lady.

    Yes there is a race element to it because I find out I have to defend myself anytime an African errs somewhere and that is because of the attitudes of some people who are too often eager to spill out hate that was already seething inside them.
    Some lady got conned by an African and all of a sudden we Africans have to run for cover.

    I felt I had to enlighten some ignorant mindsets here and set the records straight.

    People should think before they begin to write nonsense on issues they know nothing about.

    So Brenda, you can point the finger at Mick, not me!”

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    by Brenda, East Hull

    Monday, November 02 2009, 8:47PM

    “Alfa says"What's it with all this hatred of Africans anyway? Or is it that they remind many of their own guilt?"

    Alfa, I've no guilt for the actions of another.
    Don't play the race card please, this story has no racist element, unless you choose to put it there.
    The comments on this story would be one and the same if the lady in question had sent her money to a Turkish man, a Chinese man....the point is that someone has committed a crime against a vulnerable member of our society, and doubtless there will be other victims who have not come forward.”

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    by skippy, aussie outback

    Monday, November 02 2009, 6:40PM

    “absolutely no sympathy for her.how silly can someone really be??????????????”

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    by john, hull,

    Monday, November 02 2009, 4:38PM

    “Dave, Hull,. you take a very simplistic view of life. To say that the USA tried to overthrow warlords in somalia 'to help them out' and that the result of aid to that region is piracy in the gulf, borders on childish. Your statement 'the locals will know who these people are and are not giving out that information to the relevant bodies' borders on the bizarre?? What do you think these countries look like? Do you think it is simply a case of identifying a pirate and then the police arresting them?

    Because of your limited view of the world you are able to link aid donations to internet scams, and draw a conclusion that they must all be involved somehow in a conspiracy to rip you off.

    Is your take on history limited this as well? Britains wealth was built on african blood. Our position in the world today is because of profits made from the slave trade (that is how the British Empire became so huge). We all personally benefit from this simply by being British, yet you think that it is Africa trying to rip us off?”

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