Man subjected to abuse by girlfriend calls for more support for male victims

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Friday, April 27, 2012
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A MAN whose girlfriend was jailed for subjecting him to more than a year of physical and mental abuse is demanding more support for male victims.

Ian McNicholl's life was made hell by Michelle Williamson during the 17-month ordeal which saw her burn him with an iron, spray bleach in his eyes, put lit cigarettes up his nose, pour boiling water over him and smash his arm with a hammer.

  1. ORDEAL: Ian McNicholl is demanding more support for male victims of abuse.

    ORDEAL: Ian McNicholl is demanding more support for male victims of abuse.

  2. JAILED: Michelle Williamson.

    JAILED: Michelle Williamson.

Figures revealed under the Freedom of Information Act reveal the Hull Domestic Abuse Partnership has an annual budget of £329,000.

But with 1,252 men reporting domestic violence last year, just £11,000 is available to help male victims.

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By contrast, £126,100 is set aside to help male perpetrators on the city's Strength To Change programme. Of the 498 men who referred themselves from 2009 to 2011, just 29 had completed the programme by January this year.

Mr McNicholl, 50, who is still awaiting surgery for his injuries, claims men who have suffered domestic abuse are being ignored and treated "like second-class citizens".

He said: "If you measure the success of Strength To Change by the number of people who completed the course, in excess of £11,000 is being spent on each perpetrator.

"We only have £11,000 to spread over more than 1,000 male victims in Hull, which is less than £9 per person.

"This should be the source of professional embarrassment for anyone who works in the arena of domestic abuse services in Hull.

"I think there should be a public inquiry.

"If you are spending that much money, wouldn't you want to see more of a success rate?

"It's an absolute disgrace."

Of all the literature available to victims of domestic abuse in Hull, just one out of about 40 leaflets and posters was directly aimed at male victims.

The figures show 172 male perpetrators of domestic abuse failed to attend their first Strength To Change appointment following their call to the helpline between 2009 and 2011.

This includes men who forgot about their appointment, did not believe they had a problem, decided not to seek help or were incorrectly signposted to the service.

Meanwhile, 67 men attended the initial assessment during the same time but did not return to complete the course.

According to the Freedom of Information response, the Strength To Change programme has four members of staff, while the male victims worker at the Hull Domestic Abuse Partnership works 20 hours a week.

Mr McNicholl, who lived in Grimsby at the time of his ordeal but now lives in Hull city centre, said his life was saved when an anonymous phone call was made to police by a concerned neighbour.

Williamson was convicted of two offences of causing grievous bodily harm with intent and three offences of assaulting Mr McNicholl, causing actual bodily harm, between Christmas 2006 and May 2008.

She was jailed for seven years in April 2009 at Grimsby Crown Court and is due to be released on licence in September.

Mr McNicholl said: "We have got to change the public perception that domestic abuse is just male on female.

"I agree it's the majority and I don't want to see any services cut for women or perpetrators.

"But male victims are being treated like paupers and the awareness is all aimed at female services.

"Either the Strength To Change course is not working, people have been incorrectly signposted, or maybe, for whatever reason, people who are being offered help are walking away from it.

"No one can deny men are victims of domestic abuse."

According to the figures, 5,811 women reported domestic abuse to police in Hull in 2011, compared with 5,357 in 2010 and 5,253 in 2009.

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  • Profile image for TheEmperor

    by TheEmperor

    Tuesday, May 22 2012, 8:08AM

    “If the genders were reversed, the abused woman would be getting loads of support. The guy is right. So, perversely, are feminists. This country is bloody sexist. However, men are now the victims - not women.”

  • Profile image for bigmamma107

    by bigmamma107

    Monday, May 21 2012, 5:33PM

    “by waynecarr sorry but yes you are missing the point i am not a very good speller so can not put what i wish as some will take the miky out of me. it is so easy to say walk away but its not so simpel”

  • Profile image for waynecarr

    by waynecarr

    Monday, May 21 2012, 4:41PM

    “If the victim was female we would say walk away - so why didn't he,,,,, or am I missing the point.”

  • Profile image for bigmamma107

    by bigmamma107

    Friday, April 27 2012, 7:54PM

    “yes men need help as well just becuse they are mail dos not meen they dont have feelings as well”

  • Profile image for Mortsthoughts

    by Mortsthoughts

    Friday, April 27 2012, 7:37PM

    “Mr McNicholl, I feel great empathy towards you. Your circumstances are unfortunate, you must hold many resentments towards your ex and to system, if I may suggest to (and the others in this blog) that being the abuser or abused requires a very similar process of recovery. The letting go of ones resentments is the key to both sides. Using "Strength for change" as an example, the men who have volunteered for the course spend 18 months learning new emotional skills, letting go of their anger, accepting and moving beyond the past, taking responsibility for their actions.
    All these things can be done to relieve the abused, I'm sure in many cases the men on the course where abused them selves in order to learn those behaviours and find them acceptable. Being resentful and self seeking are in fact unhealthy character traits, most commonly found in the abused, the abuser or one with a personality disorder such as "Boarder line".
    Knowing the system quite well myself, may I also say "why not go to Strength for Change yourself?" the purpose of the course is to help male recovery from abusive relationships, the newspaper article assumes that it's for "perpetrators" but I know full well there are men on that course that have never hit their partner! But rather spent several years in fearful, resentful and manipulative relationships because they have learnt all the bad behaviour from being abused themselves.
    Stay open minded, and go speak with a member of staff, if you really want help you'll find it.”

  • Profile image for yisalplonkas

    by yisalplonkas

    Friday, April 27 2012, 6:18PM

    “Pu55y whipped man up ye balloon”

  • Profile image for 1Tommygunn

    by 1Tommygunn

    Friday, April 27 2012, 4:59PM

    “One of the consequences of finding one's feminiine side is forgetting how to be the dominant male. The countr'y men have become a load of wimps.”

  • Profile image for on_the_move

    by on_the_move

    Friday, April 27 2012, 4:52PM

    “I completely agree....she looks quite rough!”

  • Profile image for seasidehcfc

    by seasidehcfc

    Friday, April 27 2012, 4:00PM

    “Phill West, that silly troll from the Hull City forums.

    considering you have NEVER had a girlfriend in your life what would you know ?”

  • Profile image for bobsbar

    by bobsbar

    Friday, April 27 2012, 3:55PM

    “I have been in this situation and it's certainly not nice ! but you cannot defend yourself.
    Women attack men because they expect men not to defend against it.
    Cowards attack the defenceless.”

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