'I will not let what he did ruin my life': Battered by boyfriend David McGovern, but Jade Pickersgill says she no longer feels like a victim

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Monday, December 31, 2012
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THE emotional and physical scars may never heal but she is slowly rebuilding her life.

Jade Pickersgill was battered by her boyfriend David McGovern as she lay in bed in an horrific attack that saw him sentenced to seven years in jail.

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    Getting better: Jade Pickersgill was severely beaten by her partner.

Now, at the time of year when domestic violence calls to police soar, Jade is appealing to other victims to speak out.

"Anybody who is suffering in silence should just speak to somebody they trust, whether it's a family member or a professional," she said.

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One year on from the court case, Jade says her confidence has been boosted and she no longer feels like a victim.

"Sometimes, I look back and it's as if it never happened to me, it happened to someone else" she said.

"I do have my bad days but things are getting better."

Jade, 26, suffered a brain haemorrhage and spent five weeks in hospital after David McGovern beat her, stamped on her head and face and left her in a pool of blood in the middle of the night.

McGovern, 38, is now in prison after admitting GBH with intent.

He is likely to be released in 2014 and Jade fears the panic will mount as the months tick by to his release.

"When David was jailed, he said 'I'll see you soon', and a part of me does want to see him but another part of me wants to run away," she said.

"I wish it hadn't happened, but I think I would still be in an abusive relationship otherwise.

"I don't think David will ever fully accept what he did to me."

Jade has had a number of health problems since her ordeal in December 2010 and she is registered disabled as a result of the injuries inflicted.

Forensic evidence suggested a black motorcycle helmet, which was splattered with blood, could have been used to strike her.

DNA tests also showed McGovern had stamped on his girlfriend's head or face more than once as she lay injured and bleeding on their bedroom floor, drifting in and out of consciousness.

"After the court case, I caught tuberculosis and have been in and out of hospital," Jade said.

"My health is now my main priority. I still have flashbacks and, around Christmas and new year, it does affect me a lot more.

"I'm living in accommodation for women affected by domestic violence and the other girls know it's best to just leave me alone when I'm having a bad day.

"Silly things like The X Factor remind me of the attack, but I have made a lot of progress and I'm more confident around people.

"I'm still thinking about having counselling, which could help me, but it will be hard talking about what happened all over again."

Although it's a difficult time of year for Jade, she says she is finally feeling happier, has become closer to her family and has even bought a kitten.

"His name is Salem. It's nice to have something to give me a bit of focus," she said.

"I've wanted a kitten for ages and I will be staying at home to look after him a lot."

Jade said flashpoints and tension over Christmas and new year can cause relationships to explode into violence and she knows only too well how they can end.

She said: "There's a lot of added pressure at this time of the year. Everything from alcohol to getting dressed up for a party can start arguments.

"Women shouldn't let it get to the stage where they are being physically abused.

"I feel like a hypocrite because I stayed with David for so long but, if I could turn back time, I would have left sooner.

"I want David to know I won't let what happened ruin me."

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  • Profile image for RaineAnn

    by RaineAnn

    Saturday, January 05 2013, 1:19AM

    “Year's ago I worked in a hotel, and slapped a bloke who touched me up on the backside & said a few words. Apparently when he got home he stabbed his partner :( And word got around town it was me he stabbed not her. I feel sorry for anyone who suffers abuse - but it is not to be put up with. These people are SCUM!”

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    by Hullgirl

    Friday, January 04 2013, 11:51PM

    “Jade--he stood outside your flat shouting, pretending that someone else had attacked you. The scumbag didn't even call for help---he was just trying to create an alibi. He left you disabled. Don't ever go back with him or any other abuser. Keep on getting stronger and try to build a new life for yourself.”

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    by Hunnyb_2252

    Friday, January 04 2013, 11:00PM

    “My ex had an arguement with a guy in the pub, came home and held a knife to my throat, thankfully, he didn't use it but at the time it terrified me enough to keep quiet. When he beat my eldest son (not his) to a pulp I knew then I had to get rid of him (divorce). There were times when I hoped my husband would get run over on the way from the pub so he didn't hurt me when he came home.

    So please don't judge the woman for not standing up to them, it's an effort to get through the day when you have a violent partner, you're treading on eggshells in case you say or do something to upset him. I class myself as one of the lucky ones as I got away and have been on my own for over twenty years, but others feel trapped, especially when they have kids.”

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    by meolemuker

    Friday, January 04 2013, 8:03AM

    “hang this scumbag evil monster”

  • Profile image for funky15

    by funky15

    Friday, January 04 2013, 3:51AM

    “to be honest i lived with a violent man for 20 years , been in hospital , so has mum but we covered for him as he told us u speak out i will kill you, if thats all u know u believe it, then he had a heart attack my dad, then i took control , he moved away , and he died , but for 22 years the army covered his actions, the wife and the 2 kids where nothing, so now if a man hits a woman does tat make him hard , the answer is NO, its usually when a man been out and someone upset him , the so called man goes home and takes out on his sleeping wife, .”

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    by funky15

    Friday, January 04 2013, 3:42AM

    “it piXXXXes me off we paying for them , to live in prison, and that poor lass, 5 weeks in hospital;?”

  • Profile image for funky15

    by funky15

    Friday, January 04 2013, 3:35AM

    “tattoo him im a woman abuser , on his arm , hes in prison serving time, why shouldnt he be branded.?”

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    by Hunnyb_2252

    Thursday, January 03 2013, 1:40AM

    “If a person gets such a light sentence for nearly killing their spouse/partner, how many women will report such crimes? Most will be scared of the repercussions once they're released. Come on judges, take a stand against domestic violence and put these scumbags away for longer to let the women rebuild their lives and move on and not live in fear.”

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    by harry_offdock

    Wednesday, January 02 2013, 1:51AM

    “unified,
    What's Martin Bormann got to do with anything? Idiot”

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    by HCAFCscarb

    Wednesday, January 02 2013, 12:08AM

    “i seriously think they should brand or tattoo

    " i beat women up " on David McGoverns head as a warning to other females

    If a woman hits you, we know it happens ......just walk away like a man.

    Jade....find some respect for YOURSELF.

    YOU will find someone better one day out of the blue..

    this scum bag doesnt love you one bit...

    Your to good for him...

    he will only hurt you again in my opinion...”

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